Saturday, January 9, 2010

Deon wanted to see Stephen - Jan 9, 10

Amy went to Panama Cruise and won't be back until the 16th.  She forwarded her phone to my phone.  I am getting all of her calls on my phone.

On Jan 6, Stephen called Amy.  I told him she was away.  We chatted for a bit.  He said he may take Deon out for a few hours this Sunday.  He would call me to confirm.

Since Amy left, I've been having dinner with Deon on Saturdays nights.  I thought of asking him about Stephen.  Although I know he didn't remember much of his dad.  Unlike LD whom Deon has such a deep relationship with.  LD no doubt plays a big father figure in Deon's life....at least in the last couple of the years.  Deon remembers all of the times they spent together.  However, for Stephen, he is after all Deon's dad.  

During dinner, I asked Deon:

Pan: Deon, do you want to see your dad?

Deon: Yes

Pan: Do you miss him?

Deon: No

Pan: Do you miss Kai Dad?

Deon: Yes

Pan: Oh, then why do you want to see you dad if you don't miss him?

Deon: I don't know

Pan: Do you remember where are the places your dad took you before?

Deon: No (after he paused a couple of seconds)

Pan: Do you remember going to Crash Crawley's with daddy?

Deon: No, I had my birthday party there.

Pan: Do you remember going swimming with daddy?

Deon: (Deon thought of a few seconds then said)  That rings a bell.

It is funny that a kid who rarely sees his father, knows anything about his father, but wants to see his father.  I guess this is what the Chinese saying "blood is thicker than water" (血濃於水).  I guess there is always a connection between parents and their children no matter how distant they are.

Deon, you have been getting the best that your mommy can provide and nurture you.  Although your father didn't play an important role in your life, I am sure you sure you thank your father (not just your mother) to bring you to this world.